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Love Questions

Many people have emailed us looking for answers to their love questions. Below, we've posted some of the most common love questions that were answered by our specialist, psychologist Dr. Tom Thomas. We receive love questions for all stages of a relationship, even love questions from people about how to get a relationship started. Be prepared for what you're about to read. Sometimes the truth hurts.

Love Questions for Dr. Tom

As promised, here are the most common love questions we see for Dr. Tom:

"Dear Dr. Tom,

#09Is it possible to fall in loveat first sight? I met a man in college and it felt like I was hit by a truck! The attraction was instant, and we've dated on and off for about ten years. However, I seem to do all the work. Am I wasting my time?"

#09#09#09#09#09#09#09#09#09#09#09#09Sherri - Atlanta, GA

Dear Sherri,

#09Love at first sight is possible, but there's no guarantee that the object of your affection will return your feelings. I suspect that if you're "doing all the work" as you said, he doesn't return your feelings. It's probably best at this point for you to move on.

"Dear Dr. Tom,

#09I am a single 29-year-old man. I am at a point in my life where I am ready to settle down with someone. I'm just having trouble finding her. Within the last two years, I had to move to a different part of the country for my job. I don't know many people here besides my coworkers. Because of the nature of our jobs, nobody I work with is from here originally, so they don't know many people here either, so it makes a fix-up more difficult. In fact, so far it hasn't happened. There is a guy whose wife has a friend she thinks I might be interested in, but it's in a different part of the country. I've met her, and she seems great, but I've always been leary of these long distance loves. Do you have any advice?"

#09#09#09#09#09#09#09#09#09#09#09#09Max - Fort Lauderdale, FL

Dear Max,

#09I don't know how well you know this girl and how far things have progressed. Have you tried phone calls and emails back and forth? If you want to find someone as bad as you say you do, and you think you might have a connection with this girl, perhaps it's worth the cost of a couple of trips to find out. If it turns out that you think she might be worth the extra effort of a long distance love, you owe it to yourself to give it a shot. These types of relationships are hard, but they aren't impossible.

"Dear Dr. Tom,

#09My wife told me she'd like it if I'd be a little more romantic. I want to surprise her and be creative with romance, but I have no idea where to start. Any ideas?"

#09#09#09#09#09#09#09#09#09#09#09#09Steve - Houston, TX

Dear Steve,

#09Being romantic does take effort, but it doesn't have to be anything expensive or over-the-top. Something as simple as putting a love poem on her pillow is a romantic gesture. Or, it you are a little more adventurous, how about an impromptu love song . Try writing a message on the bathroom mirror when she's taking a shower or make a romantic candlelight dinner for the two of you. Your wife is likely to appreciate anything you put effort into."

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